Did you ever send a message and have the recipient misinterpret it? This happens every day. You’ve probably given presentations that were completely prepared only to find out it didn’t work. It happens all the time. Have you ever had someone ask you something like, “Why are you mad?” when you were not at all mad? This happens every day.
These communications: What’s the deal? It is the difference in between Knowing Send us your message Delivering Your message and your message are very different.
It is not about one or the other. Effective communication requires both.
The main cause of miscommunication in the spoken word is not the words. Research done by Prof. Albert Mehrabian (UCLA) in the 1970s showed that people overwhelmingly interpret what someone says, not just by the actual words spoken, but by the speaker’s body language and tone of voice that accompany them. His famous breakdown, known as the “7–38–55 rule, suggests that when someone is ‘taking in’ your message, here is what their brain takes into account: 7% words, 38% sound, and 55% look. This doesn’t mean that the words aren’t important, but rather, if your sound and look do not Match, or SupportThe words are not believed.
You can think of it. If I walked into the room and told you that I was “happy to be here today and looking forward to working with you,” but I sounded as if I was already bored and this was taking up time that I could be using to do something else, you wouldn’t believe my words. It would seem like there was no disconnect if you could hear me speak the exact same words, but with a smile on your face and making eye contact, it would make you feel more engaged.
It is a common mistake to open our mouths, respond and then close our eyes. Or even to recite something you have learned. We can’t take out the human part of our conversations and leave only the words. Using their own initiative, don’t mean a whole heck of a lot and can be easily misinterpreted.
Emails and texts are the best way to demonstrate this. If I am limited to words, misreading them can lead to misunderstandings. What is the reason? The reason is that if you remove the vocal tone and behavioral human elements, then the words will be just Information Without any Bedeutung These words should be attached. I won’t read words without meaning if they aren’t. Current situation. In other words, if I’m having a bad day, they can be read one way and if I am having a great day, they can be read another way.
This is what we do all the time. The end result? There was miscommunication.
So what can you do to make sure your messages, words, and ideas don’t get misinterpreted? These are two important points.
“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins
One breath, connect with your message
Breathe. Before You can now open your mouth to think about how it feels about what is being said. Just a second to Connect Your message. Is what you’re about to say a good thing? What is it? What is a suggestion? Do you want to be heard or are you trying to argue? Do you want to find out more or do you just want to continue the conversation?
Take a minute to reflect on how you feel about the words you will be saying. Your brain will guide you in choosing the correct tone and behavioral cues. If you feel that your voice is not being heard, it will be easier to communicate the correct tone and behaviour. don’t Do this and you will be on autopilot. Autopilot makes the final decision. You react (autopilot), rather than respond (be in control).
Use words that “set the tone”
When you are texting and emailing, feel free to include words that “set the tone.” For example, if I send you a text that Please reads, “I can’t handle that right now, you’re going to have to do it on your own,” that could be read as you don’t care, you don’t want to help, you are abandoning me or you are mad at me for even asking because you think I should have just taken care of it on my own to begin with.
Wow! That’s a lot of extra “stuff” to throw on top of a handful of words, isn’t it? But that’s exactly what happens. You’ll notice that no one ever gives positive things.(Notice how nobody adds any positive stuff? 😉
It might be possible to avoid miscommunications and create a better situation if you add a little context to your text. By doing this, I might type this instead, “I am so swamped right now, sorry. You can do it, I’m sure! We’ll connect later,” none of those snarky or negative feelings accompany my message. I just ‘get it.’
It is important to pay attention when you are paying more attention. Bedeutung behind your words, you can make choices in the moment that help your “audience” understand your message clearly the 1. It is the first thing they see or hear. This is the difference between effective communicators and average communicators.
