The Art of Winning Friends and Building Bridges

There are a handful of people I know who are great but can’t communicate well with other people. Their introversion makes them invisible gems who fail to connect with other people and find their own inner strengths. The people who communicate more often tend to be more verbal and less expressive. The people who are more attentive listen more than those who speak less. However, external appearances are not enough to judge someone. This is why we’ll be discussing how to start a conversation and make friends and build bridges.

Smile and introduce yourself to someone you meet. Extend your hand and say ‘Hi’. You can identify one positive characteristic in the person you are speaking to and highlight it by being authentic. The person will trust you and give you confidence. If you are interested in the same areas, start a conversation. If you don’t have any knowledge in that area, express your enthusiasm to learn from the person.  Respect the other person if they are not interested in having a conversation. Leave the room with a smile and a cool attitude. 

How to Make Friends

Asking for help is a great way to improve your life. You must have conversation with people to request a favor. Understanding the behavior of people will make it easier to connect with them. These are some helpful tips to help you make friends and start conversations.

  • Passionately care about people. 
  • Pay attention to the way the person speaks. If it is positive, you can make eye contact and smile at the person.  
  • Positive vibes and a positive outlook are key.   
  • Don’t be afraid to give compliments.  Use positive words and nouns sparingly. To make an impact on others, you should use positive words and appropriate adjectives. Mark Twain rightly remarked, “A man’s character may be learned from the adjectives which he habitually uses in conversation.”  
  • Engage in small conversations and be genuine when conversing with others. 
  • Find common ground for your next conversation. 
  • Asking questions about your marital status or salary is not a good idea. Be clear about the boundaries and follow it. 
  • Asking closed-ended questions with a simple answer is not advisable. Ask open-ended questions instead to encourage the individual to communicate and openly ask. 
  • Ask neutral and general questions. Don’t bombard with too many probing questions that sound interrogating people. 
  • Encourage them to speak about themselves. Dale Carnegie rightly remarked, “Talk to someone about themselves and they’ll listen for hours.”  
  • Don’t offer unsolicited advice. Before you can offer advice, build your reputation. 
  • Consider neutral topics, which can be used by all people regardless of race or gender. Avoid controversies by avoiding gender, political and religious issues  
  • To avoid misunderstanding, keep cultural considerations in mind when speaking with strangers. 
  • If the conversation is causing controversies, you can use your presence to stop it.  
  • You can make people laugh if you’re good at humor. But don’t experiment if you are not an expert in humor because it boomerangs. 
  • For a lasting impression on others, you must adhere to ethics. Quality of conversation is far more important than quantity.

You learn a lot from people when you speak with them. They can benefit from your knowledge and expertise. You listen more when you talk less. If you speak more, you will listen less. Encourage the other person to talk so you can hear. Do not seek validation or approval. Instead, find positive qualities in others and help them to grow. You can increase your influence by validating and applauding them. 

“A single conversation across the table with a wise man is better than ten years mere study of books.” ―Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

The best thing about life is to try it!

I’m not one of those people. Due to my intense passion for writing, it is rare that I socialize with other people. Sometimes it is difficult for me to get along well with women. It was because of my military history that I found the reason. When I was in the Indian Air Force, I interacted only with men and not with women. It is still difficult for me to get along with women. Although I attempted to make contact with women, it proved difficult. I am afraid of being misunderstood.

If you fail to connect with a specific stranger, don’t lose your heart. Talk to another person. You may find it difficult to communicate with someone because of your attitude, their nature and moods. You might find them disinterested in talking to you because of their perceptions. 

Although I’m not an expert in technology, I enjoy learning new things. When I see young people at the gym or in other settings, I try to get to know them and help them understand how technology is changing the world. To connect with them, I ask for their opinions. By doing this, I keep myself updated on technology and pay attention to people. Personally, I think millennials can be misunderstood to be lazy. However, millennials are intelligent and bright and often choose to take the path less traveled.

Fear of failure, rejection, and criticism are the main reasons why people often don’t converse with others. It is a learning process and life should be an experiment. Experimenting is a great way to live an interesting life. If you’re successful, others will be influenced. Hence, don’t hesitate to talk to strangers. When you speak with strangers, remember to keep cultural and gender considerations in mind. 

Human relations cannot be replaced by technology

People are more focused on their devices than they are on interacting with other people due to the rapid advancement of technology. More social interaction means less interaction with others. It is likely that the future generations of millennials will have a difficult time getting along with others. Friendship will be rarer in the future, as more people use technology as friends. Their mindset needs to change and they should prefer digital friendships over human ones. 

Social interaction is important. We must encourage meaningful conversation and build relationships with others. The art of conversation can be taught. You don’t need to be an expert in conversation, but it can be learned if you have a passion for building connections and networking. Communication is essential for professionals. This skill can be used to instantly connect and inspire others to become leaders. 

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